Reflections

Hit me with your best shot: Impact play and mindfulness

Yesterday, Kate on Girly Juice published a fabulous piece called Meditation, Mindfulness, & My Slutty Mouth, which among other topics, discussed the meditative quality she finds in giving blow jobs. It’s a great article, and you should read it. When I read the piece yesterday, I started thinking about my own relationship between sex and… Read more Hit me with your best shot: Impact play and mindfulness

Elia Recaps Her First Kink Convention (in MS Paint)

A few weeks ago, I was fortunate enough to attend Geeky Kink New England, which is either described as “a geeky convention for kinksters” or “a kinky convention for geeks.” I first heard of this event during my research for Playing Knotty. I needed to find some kink conventions that Ian was likely to attend, and… Read more Elia Recaps Her First Kink Convention (in MS Paint)

I am the world’s worst wrapper of presents.

It’s time to come clean. With the Festivus “Airing of Grievances” yesterday, I’m in the spirit of honesty, and I need to get something off my chest. I’m terrible at wrapping presents. I used to think this was because I was buying the shitty wrapping paper that tears every time you look at it wrong,… Read more I am the world’s worst wrapper of presents.

Another White Woman Talks About Fall

My name is Elia Winters, and I’m a cliché. I love the shit out of Fall. Tomorrow is the first day of October. The nights are cool, temperatures dropping easily into the 40s at night, and the Hilltowns have already experienced their first frost of the season. The leaves are changing, because it’s New England and… Read more Another White Woman Talks About Fall

On never growing up, or why you should do GISHWHES

I always assumed there would be some point in my life where I finally felt grown up. When I reached that age, I would no longer feel the need to jump in puddles, or giggle at fart jokes, or build pillow forts. I would read nothing but Serious Literature and I would know what kind… Read more On never growing up, or why you should do GISHWHES

I’m Writing This Post Instead of a Book Right Now

Sometimes writing is easy. On those days, even when you’re not writing, your mind is awash with book possibilities, and when you actually sit down to the keyboard, the words just flow like someone is dictating the story and you’re just writing it down. Days like that are amazing. It’s like being in a movie montage with… Read more I’m Writing This Post Instead of a Book Right Now

Why I’ll Always Get My Hopes Up

I’m an incurable optimist. I try the front row in the parking lot at the mall during Christmas season. I call in during radio sweepstakes. I believe that people are inherently good, tomorrow is another day, and everything will ultimately turn out well. People sometimes think this means I’m not realistic, that I live in… Read more Why I’ll Always Get My Hopes Up

My Favorite Character Type: The Aloof Genius

It’s taken me a while to figure out that yes, when it comes to character types, I have a clear favorite. More than rugged cowboys, sensitive bad-boys, and beefy jocks, my knees go week over the aloof genius. (Or, if you prefer, the “brilliant asshole,” which is an equally accurate description.) The aloof genius is… Read more My Favorite Character Type: The Aloof Genius