Look up “fangirl” on Urban Dictionary, and the results will be less than flattering. Despite this, though, I don’t mind the term. It adequately names what can only be described as a series of obsessions I’ve enjoyed since childhood. I would delve into some show or film, watching it endlessly, purchasing merchandise, even – as I got older – writing fanfiction. I was a ‘shipper, although I didn’t know the term. Fangirling has defined many stages of my life. In honor of the great world of fandoms out there, I thought I’d walk you through my history, with a little navel-gazing about What It All Means.
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I grew out of Mathnet and into Captain Planet and the Planeteers. This was a short-lived fangirling period in my life, one that was fortunately shared by my best friend. As always in my obsessions, I was drawn into it by a ‘ship: specifically Linka and Wheeler. I’m not sure if they ever did get together, because I soon moved on to more “adult” loves.
After Star Wars, my obsessions became a bit less rabid. I loved X-Files, ‘shipping Mulder and Scully pretty hard. I was in college and the internet had become a thing. I learned about fanfiction, which I’d been writing without knowing it had a name. I published my first fanfiction online. (It’s still out there, by the way, archived on the internet under a pseudonym. I don’t think I’m ready to link to it.) X-Files led to other geeky loves, such as Harry Potter and Doctor Who, which I still maintain today.
I’m in my thirties now, a legitimate grownup, and fangirling isn’t something from my past. A few things have changed, though, since my youth.
- I tend to fangirl multiple shows at once, now, rather than pouring all my love into one.
- I’m a Real Adult With Money, so I can go to conventions and indulge myself.
- I’m not embarrassed about my obsessions. I’m into things. To me, that’s much more interesting than not being into things.
So has it all been for naught? A lark, a time-wasting hobby? I don’t think so. I’ve thought a lot about what purpose fangirling has served for me along the way. Primarily, it was a way for me to explore my feelings about relationships. Each of my youthful obsessions was based around some kind of ‘ship. Fangirling gave me a safe space to think about love, romance, and sex as they pertained to the characters… and, ultimately, to me. As a writer, I think I became better at creating characters because of my obsessions. I have always been drawn to pairings where the characters are equals, and especially where they don’t like each other right away. Unsurprisingly, that’s now my favorite kind of romance to write. I owe at least some of it to my fangirling past.
I hope I never lose the youthful exuberance of obsessions. For years, I worried about how geeky I was. Now, I embrace it. I’m geeky. I’m into stuff. And I hope that never changes.
What about you, readers? Did you, too, have obsessions? What were they? How have they influenced you?