Miscellaneous “Kinky” Toys
Ahh, kink. Kinkiness comes in many shapes and sizes: your “vanilla” might be my “rocky road.” There’s a whole range of kinky toys out there depending on your personal tastes. Let’s look at a few of them.
If you have nipples, you can enjoy nipple play. Clamps are perhaps the most common form of nipple toy, but you don’t need to purchase anything specific: good old-fashioned clothespins are great for starters. If you want a more intense sensation, wrap a rubber band around the business end of the clothespin.
If you want to buy something specially for the purpose, great! You have some choices. Tweezer clamps are the gentlest type of nipple clamp. If you want a bit more pinch, try an adjustable squeezer clamp or a plier-type clamp. If you’re not a newbie, and you want some really intense sensation, I can give a personal recommendation of clover/butterfly clamps. Note: these babies are big and heavy and wonderful, but they sure aren’t for everyone.
If you want to try another type of nipple play, try some nipple suckers. Supple Nipps makes a really cool device just for that purpose; they were an impulse purchase when I bought them, but now they’re a favorite go-to toy. They work well on men, too.
Want to try bondage? Unless you really want to do the “police fantasy” thing, or enjoy some purple wrist bruises, don’t use metal handcuffs. Really. I got this valuable piece of advice when I was first getting into bondage, from a lovely store clerk in a little local sex shop. She recommended some faux-fur-lined velcro cuffs with straps. She strapped one of my wrists into it and pulled it here, there, and everywhere by the strap, and by the time she finished, I was sold! (And a little turned on.)
Now, I give you the same recommendation. Consider getting some actual leather or fake-leather cuffs. If you’re not ready to go that far, try the “silk scarf” route. If you enjoy spending money, every bondage company out there is putting out gray necktie bondage systems inspired by a certain popular book… or you could just use your own neckties. Dealer’s choice.
Want to try rope bondage? (Unf. Me too. But that’s a different story.) There are lots of books about how to tie people up. I’ve done a lot of “research” using Chanta Rose’s Bondage For Sex. Hot models, beautiful rope work, and some very clear instructions.
Want to try bondage but don’t have a headboard? In my house, we love the Under the Bed Restraint System. It gives any bed the attachment points necessary for bondage play.
Spanking, Paddling, and Flogging… Oh My!
If discipline is your thing, chances are you’re being taken over someone’s knee or taking someone over your knee at some point. People use lots of household implements for spanking, but that’s just the tip of the punishment iceberg. So if you don’t know a crop from a whip, listen up.
A paddle is short, broad, and usually has a handle. Paddles give contact to a wide area, spreading out the sensation. A flogger has a handle and a collection of strands, which can be made out of a variety of materials. Floggers can give a variety of sensations from a thump to a sting. Some floggers have rubbery strands, like this one, and give you some sensory options during play. A crop has a long handle and a narrow tip, offering a sharp, focused snap. Any of these options can be used by beginners, but like any toy, do your research and start slow.
Now for a couple more. A whip is a long, single strand of leather, or sometimes several strands braided together to make one. A cane is a flexible rod, often made out of some kind of wood. Both whips and canes can cut the skin and leave marks. Neither is a beginner’s toy. If you’re interested in playing with whips and canes, or doing any kind of advanced physical discipline, find yourself a mentor first.
That’s all for now on the Wide World of Sex Toys! I think I’ve covered the basics in these past few articles. If you want information on a specific topic not covered in these articles, or if I’ve inspired you to buy a new play toy, please comment below. I’d love to hear your thoughts!